This holiday season has been awesome so far. One of the greatest parts has been spending time with my uncle, a crazy guy with amazing insight, and countless advice for me on marriage, men, money, and all of the other significant M’s. Through my laughter I caught a few good quips, one of which was this: “Men are visual, stay thin, keep your skin looking good, because men are visual, remember that.” I agreed, yes, they are, and then I thought to myself, women are visual as well. We like something fit and handsome to look at, and honestly, though some of us are willing to compromise for the right guy, your looks and body say more about you than you may know.
I’m not overly superficial. I continue to claim that my only “type” of guy is a good looking one. Fine. But here’s another fact. I like to work out. I enjoy losing weight, and I care about my physical appearance. Now, beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder, but, I can’t do fat/out of shape guys. Just that simple, nothing against them or anyone who does do them, but I can’t do it. Now there are many reasons behind this, physical attraction, general appearance, the fact that I shouldn’t be working out for my self and to stay looking good for a guy I am with if he isn’t, but there is definitely one main thought: How someone feels about their health at this age reflects how they plan to conduct themselves in the future. It reflects how they plan on raising their kids and living their life, if you aren’t taking care of yourself now, in your prime, there’s a good chance you’re not planning to get better with age. There is something about a man who takes care of his body, and focuses on being healthy that to me and most women says, this is someone I want to be with.
Enough about me, back to the important part, you. We are always focusing on women keeping their shape, eating right and as my uncle says, “not turning from an 8 shape to an 0 shape”. Not often enough do we look at you guys and ask if you’ve been to the gym or if you’ve been eating right. Believe it or not, you won’t have that forgiving constitution forever. You just won’t. There is no reason to let yourself go because you have some predisposed notion that you are going to be your fit mid-twenties self forever, it’s just not going to happen. So when you’re pointing that finger at the girl who let herself go since college, or the chick taking a doughnut when she should be grabbing a brand muffin, make sure you know what’s on the other end of that finger.
Take a second to assess yourself and the path you’re headed down. Are you going to wake up one day with a beer gut and three kids, or a DILF (Dad I’d Like To F*ck) out with the kids, getting the side eye from the soccer mom’s jealous of your wife? Consider the future. Men like women will get comfortable with the women that they are with and start to slack off on the gym or on other physical upkeep because they “have someone”. I say, if you want to keep that someone or be able to get someone different if that other someone happens to leave you, keep your stuff tight. Weight gain not only lowers the image you have of yourself, but it could put a strain on your sexual relationship. I have a friend now that is going through just that with her man and though his approach of telling her about it is all kinds of wrong, its not an unfounded claim. If your girl wasn’t attracted to you because you were out of shape its most likely she won’t be in the future.
In the end, no, it’s not all about looks. Even the hottest guy with a shitty personality is not as attractive as a decent guy with a great personality. But if we are just talking about looks here, keep yours up guy, go to the gym, hit the pavement for a run, do what it takes to put your best body forward…we’re watching.