There are hundreds, maybe even thousands of books out there for women on just how to get our dating, love, relationship lives together. Some are written by women and others by men on the insights of just how uninterested some man may be in you, exactly what he may need from you to make you his girlfriend, how to wear our make- up just right, or how to be just that uninterested while being supportive without being over bearing. And my favorite, how to realize that yet again this is not the man for you and that all those signs are not in fact green lights, but red ones.
I, in no way believe women know it all. I don’t even think that these books are unhelpful or useless. Many of them I’ve taken tips from myself and can say they have worked, most of the time. I get where they’re coming from, they want us females to know what exactly we are working with, and why half the shit we do makes men nervous as hell. We get it, we’ll work on toning it down.
Though in my every day life I experience something that needs just as much attention, but for some reason just isn’t getting it: Men don’t know what the fuck is going on half the time either. There are all of these articles and books telling women how to go about picking up the right man and what to do when she’s got him, but who the hell is giving men tips on how to decipher the ways of women? My guess is no one really, some dad’s but then again I ask, what do they know? I’m a woman and I don’t know why I do half the shit I do sometimes, so I never understand it when men tell me they “know women”. Truth is, you don’t, and may never, if you don’t stop assuming and really try. Most of the time, what you think you know you don’t and the reality is that she just is not all that into you.
A few things that I know before I start this:
- Most/All men are looking for sex most/all of the time. It’s nothing to be upset about, its just fact, and I am fine with that. But I also know that some are looking for something else with that sex.
- Not everything will apply to every woman, but what can I say, there will always be those who give us a bad name out there, ha.
- I’ve been on many dates, to say the least, and so a lot of this comes from personal experience and other parts comes from friends, but most of these things are backed up by at least one or two other female experiences.
Feel free to comment, commiserate, laugh, tell me I’m wrong or pass on stories.
Coming up next week: Two Times Isn’t The Charm: No Does Not Mean Yes.