I don’t get PMS. I am actually genuinely happy, motivated, and even tempered during that time of the month, may be a bit hungrier than usual, but other than that, I’m good. All of that to say, PMS is NOT some kind of female epidemic that without question takes over womens bodies once a month and turns them into an emotional ball of shit. Now, some women do, and honestly, because you have no idea of the pain and discomfort that she could be going through, you really should just shut up and deal with it. This said, I am not sure when that one time a month thing became the sole reason for every single emotion a woman shows. Any time a woman cries, yells, isn’t in a good mood “she must be PMSing”. Honestly I think that whole statement is just getting old, we have emotions because we are human not because we are shedding a lining.
Not every woman is super emotional. I know I personally have had boyfriends cry on my shoulder and felt genuinely concerned that I was not relaying this same kind of emotion over the situation. I have also had times where I’ve been teared up and comforted by a guy. Being afraid of emotions in a relationship is a thing of the past. Okay it isn’t really a thing of the past yet, but I figured if I wrote it, it would become so faster, because that is where it needs to be. Now I write this from a very hypocritical point of view because I definitely am not very skilled in the art of comforting a crying man or sharing many emotions, its really just awkward for me, so I will stick to what I know, how women like to be treated and why they do what they do.
As long as we are chucking things in the past and getting over stupid excuses such as PMS, I’d also like the ditch the idea that having emotions makes you “fragile” or “weak”. In my opinion that fact that someone is brave enough to be emotional and vulnerable in front of someone who they love, or who they know is really analyzing their behavior is brave. Not that you always have control of when it comes out, but the fact that you trust someone else and your self that much is nothing to be labeled as less than or weak.
Women who are in touch with their emotions have better sex. When I was thinking about this post and looking things up, that is one of the statements that I came across. I can see how this is very true.When you have less inhibitions when you are with someone, whether it is emotional of physical things are automatically going to be better in bed, and in the relationship. Think of that next time you get a girl all upset, and are thinking, what the fuck am I going to do now? Just know that after the fight, the make up sex will be great.
My best advice on this is to just be patient with women. We know that men do not express themselves as freely, often or easily as some women. But showing emotion, whether it be happy, sad or angry is really telling you that she cares about you. She knows that when you piss her off that you are better than what ever bullshit move you just pulled, if she is sad, it because she genuinely wants you to know that what you do actually matters to her. While talking to my guy friend about his, he told me he thinks when women are emotional that it is like ploy, they want something out of the situation or they want you to act a certain way. I thought about it, and I would say that it is better to think about it like this: you believe a person when they show you who they are, when they are open with what they are feeling. Some one could tell you anything but without the actions to back it up, it doesn’t always hold the same weight.
Know this, if she isn’t emotional over you at all ever, it could be because she doesn’t care and she really is just not that into you…
So the next time you feel like a girl is being too sensitive, emotional, bitchy, whiney, cryey, whatever it may be, realize that it is deeper than what you are seeing on the surface or what you hear her saying. It is about you, the potential she sees in you as a person, in the relationship and in what you could be to her. And hey, don’t be afraid to show your softer side either…we all know you guys aren’t great with words…ha.
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August 11, 2009 at 1:23 am
And sometimes it IS PMS: “Pass Me a Shovel” –
usually followed by: “because I’m about to whoop his ass!” lol.
Yes, ppl sometimes use PMS as the excuse, but the bottom line is, we have our days when we feel like cussing you out. We have our days when we don’t want to be bothered. Sometimes, it’s just like that.